Lessons Learned
Three Suggestions from Veteran Stepmoms​
About this forum...Lesson Learned


Welcome to our Lessons Learned forum.
Over the years, I've asked members of this group to write up helpful suggestions for future stepmoms who find this site looking for the hard-earned wisdom and ideas from those of us who've shared this often challenging journey as a woman in the role of stepmom.

All the members below have contributed their thoughts in response to the question, "If you knew then what you know now, what would you do differently if you were starting over again as a stepmom?"

Their replies have not been censored and their ideas are as varied as the 10,000+ women who've registered on this site have been.

Their suggestions come from their own experiences and the chances are good, very good, that there are concrete, practical, philosophical, behavioral and psychological suggestions among this list of hundreds of ideas that may be helpful in saving you emotional pain, time, energy and most importantly your well-being and the connection with your partner. Some of them may just help you feel good about what you are already doing. Some may just help you realize that you're not alone, nor crazy, in whatever you are dealing with.

I know it's a bit of a hassle to keep opening each one, however, it would be just too long of a single post to string them together. This is why they are separate entries and a bit of a mystery as to their content. There are 4 pages of thread titles and are in NO particular order. It can almost be used as an "I ching" of suggestions. Look through the names and trust your intuition when you pick one to open. Thanks to all the women who took the time to write up what they've learned.

May you come upon the suggestions that offer you the most value each time you stop by for a look, Cathryn
Stepmoms on a Mission®
PO Box 7, Medford NJ 08055