Lessons Learned
Three Suggestions from Veteran Stepmoms​
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I am 31 and have been a SMOM for three years. We are CP to SD6. BM lives in another State but sees SD relatively regularly.

What would I have done differently? I've been unsure how to answer that question but today SD answered it for me. 'You know History' she said, 'mistakes are learning'. She's right, mistakes are learning. And no one (NO ONE) deals with more learning curves than a SMOM.

So my answer is this - if I had my time again I would have cut myself more slack. This role doesn't come with a rule book. Mistakes are part of the process. And if you don't make them, then you'll never learn what works for you, your partner and your skid(s). 
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